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Healing the Divide Between Men and Women on Sexuality (San Francisco, CA)

December 9th, 2018

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Healing the Divide is a day-long facilitated experience where participants - men, women, singles, couples or moresomes - share their intimate stories around sexuality in a warm and inviting space. A few of the questions that we ask: What is it like, sexually, to be a man, or how do you feel that you're expected to be as a man? What is it like, sexually, to be a woman, or how do you feel that you're expected to be as a woman? What have been your personal turning points?

Our culture tends to cast shadows of taboo on the subject of sexuality, leaving this integral part of our life hidden in the dark--especially between men and women--creating a painful divide.

In this experience, we hold the question: what would it be like if we could create a bridge of understanding and empathy regarding our sexuality?

Some stories will undoubtedly be difficult, some joyous. Some will be about heartbreaks, pressures, loneliness, connections or disconnections; some about fear, violence, stigma, or personal victories. Everyone has a different history, but the amazing thing is how many common threads emerge. This is an opportunity to deeply listen to people across gender divides, acknowledge the differences, and yet also recognize the things that, simply as humans, we all share.

If you just want to listen, nobody is required to speak. More than 1,500 have participated nationwide. For many, it has been a life-changing experience.

Part of what brought Healing The Divide into existence was our belief that sexuality is an aspect of the Human Experience that has an immense possibility of beauty, connection, and bliss. Our deep wish is to aid in the freeing of that beauty, connection, and bliss.


Opening - Setting of the Container

Men’s Circle - Women Listen

Lunch Break (lunch not provided)

Women’s Circle - Men Listen

Closing Circle


ARRIVE BY 9:45AM FOR CHECK IN: You CANNOT arrive late as we will be CLOSING the doors at 10am. This is a tightly held closed containers, and no one will be allowed in after we close the doors.

SLIDING SCALE: For entry to the event, you choose the amount you want to pay between $200-$95.

REGARDING GENDER: We will be using the identifiers "Men" and "Women" for this process. You are invited to choose the gender you identify with.

LUNCH: 1.5-hour lunch break. Feel free to bring a lunch or go out to eat.

PARKING: Make sure you give yourself enough time to find parking.

WATER BOTTLE: Remember your water bottle to stay hydrated!


Dr. Hazel-Grace Yates is profoundly impacted by the amount of psychological and emotional violence that has been, and is currently, being done to men, women, and individuals across the gender spectrum. She recognizes that the world NEEDS healing and comprehensive sex education. She is an unyielding stand for the end of toxic sexual shame so that humans can experience heart-centered and empowered sexuality. One way she supports this movement is by bringing her workshops to cities across the nation.

Dr. Hazel-Grace is the founder of Healing the Divide. She works with individuals and couples as a Clinical Sexologist and a Somatic Sex Educator to support them experiencing the healthiest and most fulfilling sex of their lives.

Brave Legend Pietri is a living, breathing example of a man journeying into maturation in the 21st century. He has first hand experience of what it’s like to be harmed by sexual assault and what it’s like to have caused harm as well. Brave has actively taken steps through working in the Mankind Project and Authentic Relating Games community to create healing around his own hurt and harm. He’s passionate about holding space for others to reveal their experiences, talk about the hurt and get free of the oppression that holding on to such wounds can create.

Brave Legend Pietri is the co-founder of The Alchemy of We. Brave and his partner/beloved Megan Rose Browning work primarily as a couple with other couples to bring conscious communication to relationships and believes that the healthiest relationships hinge on the ability to trust each other, speak honestly and learn to sit in the discomfort of their own words and experiences. “If we can learn to be in the shame together, we can go through anything.” ~Brave Legend~


“What an honor to witness people expressing their amazing stories. I walked away with a great compassion for all the men and women in the room. I felt particularly tender towards all of the people who had once been children -- confused, hurt, or sad about their bodies -- and the beliefs they grew up with that have shaped who they are today. It changed the way I will interact with people and myself regarding sex and our bodies. “
- April

“I am so impressed with the level of awareness brought to creating and maintaining a safe container around sexuality. Our society desperately needs more compassion, understanding, and communication, and those qualities are at the heart of this workshop.”
- Jennifer Gunsaullus, PhD

(Cover image by Andrew Milov)

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